You made it to day 7 of #SoberOctober! Pat yourself on the back, that’s a big fucking deal and a huge accomplishment. One week of consistently doing anything is challenging—so don’t minimize what a milestone this is. It’s a cause for celebration and taking a moment to reflect on what has been working for you—and take a look at some of the things standing in your way.
One of the biggest defects of character I encountered in early sobriety was self-pity. I felt like the biggest loser and every single day was a pity party—table for one. It’s an easy, comfortable place to retreat to and since I got sober and had absolutely no coping tools--I didn’t handle it well. It was me against the world.
One of the most effective antidotes to self-pity has been gratitude. A lot of lip service has been paid to gratitude in our new age self-help addicted society. Everyone from Oprah to Deepak to Tony Robbins has preached the good word of getting grateful. But it's not bullshit. When the going gets tough, I get thankful. I'd rather train my brain to look at the bright side, than focus on the negative. Cultivating a psychology of resilience is important to me. Being thankful for everything I have in the moment is a huge piece of that puzzle.
Today’s challenge is to do a gratitude mind map. Gratitude lists are great, but I started picking one thing—just one simple thing—and thinking of all the other things connected to that one thing that I l also have to be grateful for in just being thankful for that one thing. It’s really changing my relationship to everything. Don’t overthink it, just set a timer for 3-5 minutes and go.
I've attached today's just to give you an idea.
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This week on #FactorySettings @justjeren and I talk about the elephant in the room. MONEY! We talk about when we first became aware of it, how it affected our parents' divorces, how much we spent on our addiction, being dependent, financial insecurity and so much more!
https://bridgetphetasy.substack.com/p/factory-settings-17#details
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Good morning
I am healing from the reconstruction surgery that happened a week ago but started two years ago
I don’t want to be weak and tired today
But I am
I am tired of persevering.
Nevertheless that is what I must do
If I have to be tired and foggy headed I should let go of the resentment and find out what wonders this day can hold
(Sorry for the delay on this prompt—life happened.)
The writing prompts are back! And since everyone is talking about "what is a woman?" I thought we should dig into our Factory Settings and find out what we learned about this stuff.
